My Goal Vs My Request

I find it interesting to notice how people use the words “My Goal”, when situation is such that there is frustration and dissatisfaction.

“My goal cannot be fulfilled.” “My goal is being denied.” “Things are preventing me to achieve my goals.”

It can be an executive whose goal is to become a General Manager in 10 years, but current posting or assignment will not get him there. Or, a student who wants to pursue a study in certain subject, or place of further study, is given an opportunity different from what his or her requirements.

“My Goal” or “What I really want” with strong identity and conviction is a strong and powerful force, ideally speaking. It implies that in spite of negative external circumstances: lack of resources, different, opposite or conflicting requirements of other stakeholders that can have impact on the outcome of what that person wants or desires, the person still can achieve what he wants. Or, what appeal to be un-satisfactory situation currently, over time, a win-win situation can be created, or with slightly different perspectives of the desired goals, a new, synergetic outcome (not currently known) can be created.

If “My Goal” is not understood in the light of empowering notion, then the expression “My Goal is being denied” can be taken to mean “My request is being denied”, as request implies relying or depending on external factors, e.g. external parties, or resources like money, time, authority) to get what that person wants.