Un-easy Feeling

Recently I had a conversation with someone and I have an un-easy feeling many days later.

I try to figure out the reasons why.

During normal or casual conversation, each party may naturally and spontaneously express his or her views and feelings. With such sharing, there maybe similar worldviews or differences. The later, may or maynot result in un-easy feeling, when both parties respect each other point of views.

But when each or both parties have certain expectations, for example, seeking understanding, agreement, taking collective action or decision, and if such expectations are not met, frustration may develop.

Looking back, the person I communicated may have certain expectation not met by me as per my response to him. And from there, I did not get further response from him that can make me feel good. Then I developed this un-easy feeling.

I can see clearer now that I was too absorbed in my point of views earlier. Although I thought I had fair and objective messages, I did not achieve rapport building results.

I also become aware that quite often, in communication, we are not conscious of what outcome we want to achieve. In my case, my un-conscious communication objective was my points of view.

In future, if I do not want such an un-easy feeling, I need to be mindful of my conversation outcome or objective.

Refer Creating Rapport

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